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It’s January 7th. You’re Tired. The World Is Still Messy. Welcome Back.
Amira Chenelle 1/7/26 Amira Chenelle 1/7/26

It’s January 7th. You’re Tired. The World Is Still Messy. Welcome Back.

A grounded take on post-holiday emotional whiplash and why feeling flat one week into the new year does not mean you are doing it wrong.

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New Year’s Eve: You Don’t Need a New Version of Yourself by Midnight.
Amira Chenelle 12/31/25 Amira Chenelle 12/31/25

New Year’s Eve: You Don’t Need a New Version of Yourself by Midnight.

A reality check on resolution culture and why meaningful change does not happen on a countdown clock.

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Christmas Eve: Not Everyone Is Excited About the Holidays. That’s Normal.
Amira Chenelle 12/24/25 Amira Chenelle 12/24/25

Christmas Eve: Not Everyone Is Excited About the Holidays. That’s Normal.

A grounded reminder that the holidays are emotionally complex, joy is not mandatory, and opting out of performative happiness does not mean something is wrong with you.

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If Everything Is a Priority, Nothing Is.
Amira Chenelle 12/17/25 Amira Chenelle 12/17/25

If Everything Is a Priority, Nothing Is.

When leaders refuse to choose what matters most, teams pay the price through burnout, confusion, and quiet disengagement.

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Your Parents Aren’t Wrong. You Just Needed 20 Years and a Mortgage to Admit It.
Amira Chenelle 12/10/25 Amira Chenelle 12/10/25

Your Parents Aren’t Wrong. You Just Needed 20 Years and a Mortgage to Admit It.

Why the rules and advice you once rolled your eyes at suddenly make sense.

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Why No One in This House Can Find Anything Except Me.
Amira Chenelle 12/3/25 Amira Chenelle 12/3/25

Why No One in This House Can Find Anything Except Me.

This article will not stop people from asking you where things are. It will, however, explain why you are tired.

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Realistic Deadlines Build Trust. Impossible Ones Build Resentment.
Amira Chenelle 11/26/25 Amira Chenelle 11/26/25

Realistic Deadlines Build Trust. Impossible Ones Build Resentment.

Why deadlines are not just about productivity, but about trust, respect, and the psychological cost of normalizing constant urgency at work.

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You Married Them for Better or Worse - But Not for That Weird Noise They Make When They Eat.
Amira Chenelle 11/19/25 Amira Chenelle 11/19/25

You Married Them for Better or Worse - But Not for That Weird Noise They Make When They Eat.

Disclaimer: No partners were divorced in the making of this blog.

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Does My Teenager Need Therapy - Or Just More Sleep and Less TikTok?
Amira Chenelle 11/12/25 Amira Chenelle 11/12/25

Does My Teenager Need Therapy - Or Just More Sleep and Less TikTok?

 Sometimes it’s not trauma. Sometimes it’s just TikTok at 2 a.m.

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When to Shut Up, Listen, and Not Make It About You.
Amira Chenelle 11/5/25 Amira Chenelle 11/5/25

When to Shut Up, Listen, and Not Make It About You.

Support doesn’t mean a TED Talk. It means shutting your mouth long enough to hear someone else.

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Emotional Intelligence for People Who Think They Already Have It.
Amira Chenelle 10/29/25 Amira Chenelle 10/29/25

Emotional Intelligence for People Who Think They Already Have It.

Charm isn’t EQ. Regulation is.

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If It’s Always Them, It Might Be You.
Amira Chenelle 10/22/25 Amira Chenelle 10/22/25

If It’s Always Them, It Might Be You.

If you’re the common denominator, maybe it’s not just math - it’s accountability.

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Boundaries 101: Respect Them Even If You Don’t Get Them.
Amira Chenelle 10/16/25 Amira Chenelle 10/16/25

Boundaries 101: Respect Them Even If You Don’t Get Them.

Disclaimer: Yes, even family. Especially family.

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The Self-Sabotage You’re Calling ‘Just Who I Am’.
Amira Chenelle 10/8/25 Amira Chenelle 10/8/25

The Self-Sabotage You’re Calling ‘Just Who I Am’.

We’re not attacking your “authentic self.” We’re just wondering why your authentic self keeps ghosting your goals.

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The Grind Doesn’t Love You Back.
Amira Chenelle 10/1/25 Amira Chenelle 10/1/25

The Grind Doesn’t Love You Back.

Work hard, but stop expecting the hustle to tuck you in at night.

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Urgency Culture Is Not a Strategy.
Amira Chenelle 9/25/25 Amira Chenelle 9/25/25

Urgency Culture Is Not a Strategy.

Disclaimer: We love a good deadline. We just don’t love cardiac arrest as a business model.

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P is for Projection.
Amira Chenelle 9/18/25 Amira Chenelle 9/18/25

P is for Projection.

Sometimes your “truth” is just your shadow talking.

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Not Every Trigger Needs a Trauma Origin Story
Amira Chenelle 9/13/25 Amira Chenelle 9/13/25

Not Every Trigger Needs a Trauma Origin Story

How about you take a deep breath, drink some water, and admit you’re just cranky?

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The Best People Leave When You Let the Worst People Lead.
Amira Chenelle 9/10/25 Amira Chenelle 9/10/25

The Best People Leave When You Let the Worst People Lead.

You’re not losing talent because the work is hard. You’re losing it because you keep rewarding the wrong people.

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‘Hurt People Hurt People’ Is a Lazy Excuse - Here’s the Work Instead.
Amira Chenelle 9/6/25 Amira Chenelle 9/6/25

‘Hurt People Hurt People’ Is a Lazy Excuse - Here’s the Work Instead.

Hurt people don’t have to keep hurting people - healing is a choice.

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