You May Not Actually Know What You Want - And That’s Okay.

Here’s an uncomfortable truth most people never say out loud: you probably don’t know what you really want.

You think you do - career goals, lifestyle aspirations, relationship ideals. But when you stop and really examine them? A lot of those “wants” aren’t yours. They’re scripts you inherited. Things you thought you should want because someone told you that’s what success looks like.

This is normal. Psychology shows that self-concept clarity - truly knowing who you are and what matters to you - takes work. And it’s often uncomfortable at first. That moment where you stop chasing everyone else’s dream can feel… empty.

But here’s the good news: that discomfort is the starting line. Learning yourself isn’t a one-and-done exercise. It’s a constant practice of noticing what feels authentic and what feels like performance.

So start asking better questions. What gives you energy? What do you miss when it’s gone? What feels like relief instead of pressure?

You don’t need to have all the answers right now. You just need to stop pretending you already do.